Tango Bango

"I’m not saying that people are not born gay. But this rhetoric is too limiting to be useful in the long run. As an argument, it seems to lend legitimacy to the idea that being gay is an undesirable state, like “hey, we’d be straight if we could and we have tried as hard as we can but we just can’t do it because we are biologically incapable! So that’s why you should stop being such a small-minded dick.”

Do gay people only deserve rights if they’re born gay? What if I choose to take another woman as a lover and partner when I feel I just as easily could have taken a man—does that mean I don’t? Wouldn’t it be better to unapologetically claim that we (all of us who support gay rights or are queer/bi/poly/etc.) want the freedom to make choices about our sexual life without the state telling us we forfeit our rights by those choices?"