Tango Bango

I’m not saying that people are not born gay. But this rhetoric is too limiting to be useful in the long run. As an argument, it seems to lend legitimacy to the idea that being gay is an undesirable state, like “hey, we’d be straight if we could and we have tried as hard as we can but we just can’t do it because we are biologically incapable! So that’s why you should stop being such a small-minded dick.”

Do gay people only deserve rights if they’re born gay? What if I choose to take another woman as a lover and partner when I feel I just as easily could have taken a man—does that mean I don’t? Wouldn’t it be better to unapologetically claim that we (all of us who support gay rights or are queer/bi/poly/etc.) want the freedom to make choices about our sexual life without the state telling us we forfeit our rights by those choices?

I am a feminist and I am totally pro-choice, but what’s funny is when you say that people assume that you are pro-abortion. I don’t love abortion but I want women to be able to choose and I don’t want white dudes in an office being able to make laws on things like this. I mean what are we going to do – go back to clothes hangers?

No one likes to think that their child can get abducted and killed and raped and all these horrible things. We need to start focusing more on the teenage girl being the hero in this situation. Too many times it’s hard to think about the girl who could walk through a room full of tigers and not notice because she’s text-messaging. But the fact that in order to truly combat this problem we have to put our faith in the teenage girl and train her on how to be safe and make good decisions. And that’s where the true change is going to be made.